What if twins were born 30 seconds apart and separated through their whole education!

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So today someone said to me “what do you reckon would happen if twins were born only minutes apart but separated into different year groups” and it really had me questioning what would happen. Imagine one child being born on the 31st August and the other minutes later on the 1st September and then being told they would be in separate years.

When researching this, there have been very few cases in which something like this has happened. In 2008 a story was published by the Daily Mail about two twins who had been born  at different times and there was the fear of them being separated, but the council and charities involved, said “Whatever happens would be in the best interest for the twins.” But nothing else was ever said about what happened to the twins.

Twins are raised like best friends, and a lot of parents dress and treat both their children the same.

Kelly White, 30 a mother of twins said: “my girls are in the same classes and they like to do things together in school, as well as at home”

Recent research showed that school policy should not make the decision whether twins should be taught together or separately, but the decision should come down to the parents.

When twins were asked how they would feel if their sibling was placed in a different year at school they said:

Zoe Wood, 25 from Darlington said: “I feel like there would be times when I was really little and then again when I was older (maybe 12 or 13 onwards) where I wouldn’t care that we would be in different classes. But if one of us was taught before the other one I think that’s unfair, especially because we’d end up going to college and uni a year apart!”

Emma wood, 25 said: “If we were in different years I think we probably wouldn’t have grown up so close or so similar, but I think we wouldn’t have minded because we wouldn’t know any different.”

When asked about her thoughts on being taught in different classes, Zoe said: “At primary school we did, but in Branksome we were in different sets in the same year. I feel like if twins are in different classes because of their test scores and their ability to understand better or worse than their twin in certain subjects then that’s fair because everyone else gets that treatment. But if there was a reason they needed to stay together (anxiety or learning difficulties) then that should be no problem too!”

Emma followed by saying: “At secondary school we were mostly in different classes, and were fine with it, I suppose it have us a bit of independence and time from each other. I think twins should get opportunity for both, and maybe give them the choice too. All twins are different, like some prefer being apart, and some hate being apart from each other”

Liam tinkler, 20 from Darlington said: “ “Yeah I would have minded.. it would sort of take away from what it is to be twins to more brothers. I Can’t see twins being forced into separate years.”

“However, I dont believe twins should be taught in the same class, there is nothing wrong with being in the same class, but being separated also helps twins develop on their own and not depend on one another.”

An instagram poll which asked if people thought that twins born within that 24 hours, should be in the same year or not showed that: out of 70 people, 27 said they should have been split.

Let me know your opinion below!

 

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Mental Illness “The Silent Killer” Awareness & Support!

So I’m writing something a little bit different to my usual music posts or photography post today. In the UK a lot of pressure is put on students and young people, from family, friends and work and to some people the pressure can become too much. A lot of people around the world are affected by mental health and it can affect people’s lives in many ways, but a lot of people don’t get the support they need.

A survey showed statistics on suicide rates in the US and most of them came from males, and a lot of them are people who have some kind of mental illness.

There are a lot of people out there who have depression and you should not feel alone.

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Depression is such a strong word, and it is thrown around quite a lot. It doesn’t just mean someone feels low or alone or hopeless because to someone who has depression. Them feeling sometimes don’t go away.

In the UK 50% of mental health problems are found by the age of 14 and 75% by the age of 24. But in the UK children as young as 4 and 5 can experience feelings of anxiety and depression.

Right now in the UK 1 in 4 people will experience some kind of mental health problem at some point in their life, and the numbers are rising.

In 2013, 6,233 people as young as 15, to people of a much older age committed suicide because of mental health problems, with men being 78% of them and woman being 22%.

I’m writing this because I know and have experienced my own problem in life. This is something that really means something to me, and being raised around sibling with autism and ADHD I’ve learnt how to talk to and understand it. But as a young adult there is pressure there for me to succeed because of my sibling not having the same opportunities i can and will have.

In your life it will either affect you or someone you know in one way or another! A lot of people don’t understand still how depressions can really affect someone’s life, friends and family but there is support all around you.

People sometimes hide the fact they’re down, or depressed and go through their day putting on a brave face. Hiding the fact that you feel the way you do doesn’t help and even just a little chat with a friend, or family member or even a doctor can help.

Within the UK, mens suicide rates are much higher than women because they are less likely to ask for help.

I want this to make awareness because all you have to do is ask “are you okay” or “if you ever wanna talk, i’m here” a lot of people will say they don’t have anything to talk about, or will say they’re alright even when they aren’t, but them knowing your there does actually help them.

A lot of people won’t get help, they will feel ashamed or scared to ask, but there is help there for everyone, from Councillors to antidepressants there are ways to get help.

Having depression doesn’t make you weak or different! And you shouldn’t be ashamed.

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There are many symptoms of depression

  • Tiredness, drained, no energy
  • Difficulties concentrating
  • Loss of enjoyment in an activity
  • Feel anxious all the time
  • Avoidance of people, and even close friends
  • Not sleeping or over sleeping
  • Guilt and feel worthless
  • Feeling of helplessness and homelessness
  • Difficulties to function at school, work, uni or college
  • Loss of appetite
  • Physical aches or pains
  • Self harming

Self harming doesn’t just mean hurting yourself physically, it can also be emotionally. People can self harm to punish themselves, express their distress or relieve unbearable tension. But when people hear the word self harm they thinking cutting, it doesn’t always come down to that.

People can hurt themselves in many ways. People can cause harm by punching walls when they’re down or angry, starving themselves, the misuse of alcohol or drugs, along with physically bruising or injuring themselves.

If you think your friend or even you may have any if the symptoms above you can get help, call your GP but also there are many organisations out their like the Samaritan and Mind who offer support, even if you just wanna chat to someone. They offer support for you or can offer advice if you feel someone you know is down.

People can emotionally hurt themselves too, by pushing their family and friends away. Feeling depressed can make someone feel so alone even when they have the best friends or family in the world. But some people will be hurtful and try to push you away but you shouldn’t let them.

Some people don’t have anyone, and sometimes it can be hard to find someone to talk to, so if you ever see someone who looks like they’re struggling, you just asking if they’re alright can help!

A Facebook status that my dad wrote today saying “ Could one friend copy and repost? I am trying to demonstrate that someone is always listening.
💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
#SuicideAwareness
Just one… anyone.”

Reading this status made me notice that sometimes no one is listening. There are people out their who don’t have anyone. Their will be people out their who would have put that status up and no one would have re-posted it.

This Really showed me that there’s so many people out there who don’t get the support they need.

Awareness not just for suicide but for mental health is all around. But with suicide rates in men being the biggest killer for people under the age of 50 more awareness needs to be made.

So if you or if you feel anyone you know needs support talk to them, or ask for advice because you shouldn’t feel alone and sometimes pushing people out of your life isn’t going to help.

Mental health awareness day is on October 10th and their goal is to raise awareness for mental health, but awareness is and should be made all year around!

People don’t talk about mental health enough but so many people suffer with it.

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